Me Crush Monday (3): If I Could Hold You in My Arms–An Essay to My Younger Self

Happy Monday all,

I hope that you had a restful and restorative weekend. For this week’s Me Crush Monday, I want to encourage you to write a letter to your younger self. The inner child inside of all of us that still needs to be nurtured and loved.

Write as if you know their future and you want them to receive as much love as they possibly can in order to prepare themselves for it. Write it with an understanding that they are naive to what is to come. Write it with an understanding that you deserve to forgive yourself for all of the meandering that life’s journey has taken you upon.

I wrote my letter this weekend after an incredibly difficult time. Mental health is incredibly important and often times I forget that I am the product of my experiences. I needed to remind myself that I was doing the best that anyone could do given my life circumstances. I needed to remind myself that my best may not look too hot as this point in time. I needed to remind myself that I need to actively heal from all stages in my life. I needed to remind myself that there is no right way to be. This is where I am in life and I’m pretty damn proud. This is my life and I’m doing my best to live it.

I have included a short excerpt from my letter to my younger self to help inspire you in your writing:

“Dear EM,

It has been awhile since we last chatted. I wanted to check on you on. I know that you’ve been going through a lot lately. Dad is gone. I hate to be the one to tell you that he’s not coming back. I hope that you’re taking care of Winter. He’ll be your best bud to the very end. Appreciate your time with him because dog years are real. He will be with you until you must leave him to go on your journey to higher education. He will peacefully cross over the rainbow bridge knowing that he gave you all of the love that any dog can give an owner. Your heart will break again– you’ll get used to this feeling. “

Happy writing my friends!

Yours always,

EM

Me Crush Monday (2)- Never Going to Give You Up, Never Going to Let You Down

Happy Monday my friends! I hope your weekend was as hot as the dumpster fire that is 2020…oh wait I’m trying to be more positive. Anyways, let me know in the comments section how your list of affirmations came along.

For this week’s Me Crush Monday, I want to talk to you about body image. It’s something that many of us have struggled with at some point in our lives. For the lucky few, the major wave of the issue started and ended with puberty. For others, it is and will be a lifelong struggle. I’ve personally always struggled with body image. It’s not something that I easily admit because admitting it truly makes me feel even more self-conscious. There are times that I still get dressed in the dark and avoid mirrors. It’s not healthy per say, but it’s better than catching those glimpses of myself at the wrong angle that could potentially lead to me having a rough day.

For this week’s Me Crush Monday, I encourage you to talk about yourself the way you’d talk about your crush– respectfully, but with stars in your eyes. The way you talk about their smile, the way you talk about their laugh, their odd smirks, or their quirky walking gait. Instead of investing that energy into your admiration of someone else, give yourself the chance to view yourself through those rose colored glasses. For everyday this week, I want you to avoid those negative obsessions and obsess over one small, positive thing about yourself; the same way that you’d obsess over a crush. It’s easy to give other people credit for the little things that make them oh so lovable. We all deserve to see those things in ourselves. At the end of the day, your crush on yourself is the crush that carries the most weight. Learning to love yourself is difficult, but it will benefit you for the rest of your life.

I’d love to hear from you! Let me know about the things about you that make you oh so lovable 🙂

Yours always,

EM

Me Crush Mondays …because we all deserve to love ourselves the way that Kanye loves Kanye

In honor of the undoubtedly rough week ahead, I’ve decided to start a new series called Me Crush Mondays. I’m really excited to share this concept with y’all. Mondays signal the start to a new week, but they can also serve as a mini refresh/ source of encouragement if you allow for them to. Instead of getting the Monday scaries, we can all work towards shaping a positive habit or form of self care that energizes us for the start of the week. I’ve always struggled with Mondays and I wanted to share this idea with y’all as soon as it popped into my head. I hope that it may help you in some small way. Perhaps, you can inspire others in your lives to start the week off with a more positive mindset…I just realized how ironic my intro sentence is haha.

In all honesty, very few of us give ourselves the appreciation that we deserve. For this first Me Crush Monday, I encourage you to make a list of at least 5 affirmations. Take time to meditate upon them. Try not to make them general affirmations. Make them specific to you and your journey. On Monday, I want you to read them to yourself while looking in the mirror- when you wake up in the morning, when you take a lunch break, or whenever you have time.

I’ll share with you one of my first affirmations: You are strong for choosing to court the uncertainty that comes with pursuing your dreams in the midst of your deep grief.

Side note: As counterintuitive as it may seem, these Monday posts will go live on Sundays. I’m hoping that this will give you time to prepare yourself/ have something to look forward to on Mondays. Of course, all of these activities can be performed at any point in the week.

Feel free to share some of your affirmations below. I’d love to hear from you. Don’t forget…